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Jun. 3rd, 2008 | 09:49 pm
posted by: be_bedeski in quotes

 Well guys, I did it. I fell in love with my best friend, the most stupid thing a girl could ever do. And now i'm shuttered and scared ans broken heart and the worst part is, I can't turn on him for advice. To be brief, I met him last year and we sort of had a thing, but there were other people in the way, so we became just friends. And it was fine, I told him my stories, he told me his...But it got into a point I can't deny it, and I think it's stupid, but may be he feels the same confused way about me too...We talk everyday, seriously, and we exchange cute text messages in the middle of the night and he told me he was jealous of a guy...Last weekend, he went over to my friend's house to watch soap opera with me! But it can only mean we're friends...I'm confused. I probably should open up with him, but I don't want to risk what we have, sometimes it feels like he's the only one who gets me, and I want to be with him all the time. Any advice? Any quotes? I would really appreciate it, I'm sort of desperate. Thanks everyone!

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from: gee_baby34
date: Oct. 8th, 2009 11:05 pm (UTC)

I can honestly say I'm in the same situation.

We met last year, the more we hung out the more we realized something was there. But too many things involved, we decided to just be friends. We lost touch for a while, but regained it this summer. Then he broke up with a girl for me, and she turned out to be my bestfriend. I can't tell her. And I can't be with him because it would hurt her. So we snuck around to hang out, just to keep things simple. I fell in love with him. And he did me too. Around other people we act as if nothing is there. As if we really are just bestfriends. Which we are. But it's so much more than that. He can see past everything. If I'm not okay, he knows it. Even when I lie and tell him I'm fine. We talked constantly, every day. And at night we'd have phone calls lasting all night long. Just talking about anything and everything. Then we started datin other people, but agreed to stay close. Now we're drifting. And i'm losing my bestfriend. But not only that, my heart is breaking. We can't be together. And we can't stay close without that want, that voice telling us we just wanna be with each other.

That's my pitiful, pathetic excuse of a story.
So out of curiosity, what did you decide to do?
And if you have any advice, I could honestly use it. :)

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it hurts like hell... and you wonder if it will end..

from: roseharrows
date: Nov. 7th, 2009 07:42 am (UTC)

I'm sorry for you... really, I know it hurts. especially when they say 'I love you' but mean it in a purely platonic way.
One thing you can be thankful for is that he is straight/ interested in your gender.
I fell in love with my best friend a year ago, three months after realising that I was bi, fifteen months later and she's straight, into gorgeous men and life really sucks sometimes. especially when she says 'you can tell me anything' and I think 'no, no I don't think so'
believe me honey I, and a lot of your readers (above), know where you are coming from.
you have to decided to take a chance, cross your fingers and hope it passes by finding someone else or resign yourself to silent misery.
maybe you should try, I won't say definitely because it would be hypocritical, but if he is your best friend (and he loves you no matter what- which he should) then he'll either admit to the same or help you through it, at least.
Good luck.

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in love with bestfriend

from: urno1girl
date: Nov. 19th, 2009 09:23 pm (UTC)

Ok so i have been in the same situation for the last 8 yrs. I finally told my best friend that i was in love with him 2 yrs ago right after he got engaged after being with her for four years. I kept hoping that they would break up. I had to tell him because i couldn't go another day without him knowing how I felt. A few months ago he confessed that he has been in love with me this whole time and is now seriously considered calling off the wedding to his fiancee. If you really love your best friend then follow your heart and tell him. Its the best thing you can do. You may be surprised and find out that he feels the same way. If he doesn't than its his loss because i doubt he'll find another person who will love him as much as you do. Good luck!!

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in love with my best-friend aswell

from: hatemalshafaei
date: Dec. 21st, 2009 12:27 am (UTC)

Hmmm...I see That all of you are girls around here...well it's time for a guy to write something up.

I met This girl about 2 or 3 years ago...she's That perfect somebody,you know?..the one...soulmate...name it as you want.
we told each other everysingle thing about our daily life and our problems and such..bla bla bla...
8 months ago, i told her how i really felt about her
how i love her and from when and how and all that...
she doesn't date,that's for an input to start with...
and she doesnt want anything to happen to and i qoute"she doesn't wanna lose me"
now im her bestest friend and i still love her and she still knws...but this question remains, will she ever love me?...does she already love me?...i have too much questions rushing through my head...
look i dunno about hints and signs and signals and all about these things...but she sometimes share with me songs like...martin kember-driving me insane..and save your love, but i really dno what to think...does she or doesnt she?...she might be that girl that all the songs she hear are romantic?...or maybe it's on purpose?...these days we open up this subject and always end up with deppression...so i dunno untill when can i stay this way...or even if my efforts are enough?..or if they're needed?...ughh...:S

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mixed feelings for my best friend

from: katiebelle93
date: Jan. 2nd, 2010 06:18 am (UTC)

First of all you're not stupid for falling for your best friend.

I've been liking my best friend for almost three months and it's killing me b/c i can't tell him. I mean we tell each other everything and when we talk he always says "okay seriously what's going on, you're not telling me something." and of course i play it off and say "oh it's nothing, you know i tell you everything and i love you" and of course he says he loves me back but it's nothing more than a brother/sister relationship. but like a friend of mine said if you two are brother and sister then it must be incest b/c you two are always hugging and holding hands and just full on flirting with each other. and that's the problem b/c we both openly flirt with each other so i never really know if he's being serious or not.

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my situation is a little bit more complicated!

from: bernicebuxa
date: Jan. 12th, 2010 05:04 pm (UTC)

First of all i wanna apologize myself for the English because I'm Maltese.
I had a relationship for 2 years and by this time I had a friend, he's a guy 19 years old and hes called Tom. i broke up with my boyfriend like 6 months ago and from that time on i cannot find my self in a good relationship. I had different relationships from that time on, but none have succeed. I fell like cannot love and trust someone else anymore.

By this time I remained friends with this guy but he was in a relationship and we usually talked about his problems and i helped him a lot and he respects me very much and today we are really good friends. In the time he was committed i dated his brother Nick! He loved me but as i told before it didn't work, i broke up everything as usual. he still loves me but i just want him as friends.

Now Tom has broken up and we are always together, we are sharing laughs, tears and fights :). I'm helping him forgetting his last relationship that didn't finish quite well. We are like brother and sister i respect him more than anything in the world and he is very important to me!

Now the problem is this i am feeling something for him and he sometimes flirts with me with words and he says to my friends that he likes me but its to early for him to start a relationship and the biggest problem is that i dated his brother and we are all in the same group of friends. If Nick finds out that Im dating his brother he will not be very pleased and even my friends i think they will not talk to me anymore, not all but there are like 3 of them are big friends of Nick , so it will cause a ciaos.

So what shall i do? shall i try with him or not because of the consequences it may leave on my friends etc.? I am feeling really well these days i had never felt like this since i broke up that 2 year relationship.

Please help I m in need of real help :(

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from: dprince1
date: Jan. 13th, 2010 04:15 am (UTC)

One of my friends told me this

"it will be either the best relationship ever and you'll last
you can lose your best friend."

You wont know till you take a risk and the only way to know is to take that risk

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Same Situation

from: ihopeumissme
date: Feb. 3rd, 2010 03:37 am (UTC)

I have been best friends with this guy for over 10 years and the other day he told me that he has had a lot of time to think and that he realized that he not only loves me as his best friend but he has fallen in love with me. When i finally seen him i realized that i have been in love with him for a long time.. It cant hurt to tell anyone your feelings

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I am also in love with my best friend.

from: boobie813
date: Mar. 23rd, 2010 08:01 pm (UTC)

I can tellyou that I am in love with my best friend. I told him, he explained he has mixed feelings for me but now I backed off. I will keep you posted but I hope I helped..

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Im In LOVE With My Best Friend

from: darling_144
date: Apr. 13th, 2010 11:40 pm (UTC)

I have liked my best friend for two years. And he knows.. He didn't freak out or anything..which is really good. My advice for you is to just tell him. You never know what he might say. Its better to know than to wonder and it drive you crazy! If he is truly your best friend, he will tell you the truth and will stick with you no matter what..like mine as.

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Peyton Swayer


from: Peyton Swayer
date: Oct. 18th, 2013 10:46 pm (UTC)

I have tried many love spells and had no success. I was online and came across Dr obodo (templeofanswer@hotmail.co.uk). I was having an issue with my partner we have both been separated for 4 months. I thought I would try one more time. I did it and everything changed, he came back to me and ask me to forgive him. Now we are married and planning to have children soon.Thank you so much for all your help!.

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happy ever after (:

from: krystalrenay
date: Apr. 28th, 2010 12:51 pm (UTC)

well first, i really hope you have made a move by now, but i read threw these and a lot of them are downers and i wanted to share my story....
so me and him met threw his best friend, i was datin him at the time, and i was tryin to hook my best friend up with him. me and him talked when we were forced together, and evenually exchanged aim screen names and talk pretty much every day. he told me once that he like me as a little more than just a friend but i turned him down sayin i didnt wanna lose the relationship we had now. he helped me with pretty much anything you could think of. if i was have boyfriend troubles, i would turn to him first, always. i begain to think of him as a little (yes little, but only slightly) brother. i was in a relationship for over a year, and things were fallin apart and i was heart borken, and he talked me threw it. then i started to think, hes the only boy whos never hurt me before. but of course, he was also in a relationship for a long period of time. when i met her, i could see how happy she made him. but then they to started to fall apart, and i was there for him like he was for me. and his exact words were "g dammit, why couldnt you liked me when i liked you? we woulda be perfect!" thats when things slowly changed. i had little short meaningless relationship, and mine and his friendship grew. then finally, we went to the beach together for spring break and he asked me out. it was a little weird at first being friends for so long and not really thinkin of each other like that, to well being together. we're still together now, and ive never been happier, he knows everything about me, and its great. i dont know if we'll be together forever, but we've already made the agreement if things go sour, we stay friends cause we were friends first. if you havent done it yet, talk to him. its a whole nother look on love when you can be in love with your best friend. (: hope it helps!

its not a quote, but its mine and his song now,
"you're the love i wanna be in" -jason aldean.
its great<3

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Re: happy ever after (:

from: bernicebuxa
date: May. 27th, 2010 03:38 pm (UTC)

i want to tell you that from January till today , i told him we are together for 4 months now and its just like a dream! i was glad to do that and i think that anyone should express his feelings in anytime in his life .. its never too late and everything is possible :) thanks for your help and for telling your story wish good luck to everyone's LOVE LIFE xxxxxxxxx

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Kirk L.

The Best Friend Dilema

from: alreadydead1
date: May. 5th, 2010 02:29 am (UTC)

So as everyone has probably already noticed this isn't a rare occurence to happen. Not to sound like everyone else lol, but I to am in love with my friend. The story isn't like the rest of yours and our friendship formed from a rather crazy experience.....I know that my early actions were very wrong, so please no comments about how I'm an asshole because I already knpow this.

We met at a football game about oh 5 years ago. It didn't start out as a friendship, it started out as we both thoght the other was sexy and acted upon it...well we messed around for a few months, or at least I think it was that long. We'll I ended up taking her virginity and because there was a slight age difference I pretty much just stopped talking to her for about a year.....Which yes I know is completely wrong. Well we started talking on yahoo and I told her that I was extremely sorry about what I had did. She ended up forgiving me, which to this day I still don't understand but am extremtly grateful that she did. We'll ever since we started talking again...and yes she would come over and we would mess around...but we always talked, were never afraid to tell each other anything and mostly just had extremely bad timing. Either she would be dating someone or I would be. Even when we were dating other people we would both talk to each other about our relationships, what problems might be going on or how happy we were at the time. I will say this now because it will by far be the most important thing that I will write in here tonight......true love is being okay with the fact that you have to be happy because there happy, even if there happy with someone else. Now she's single and we still have not tried seeing were things would go....however I must confess that I am in love with this girl....I know that she isn't in love with me and thats okay with me. I guess what I'm writing is that if you really love your friend you won't let rejection get in your way because you "love" this person because of who they are.....if they just want to be friends with you then you need to realize that it's better to have them as a friend than to not have them at all.

I'm sorry if I didn't tell some of you what you would have liked to hear. I'm simply letting you know how I feel about things and giving what little advice that I can on this matter.

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Re: The Best Friend Dilema

from: k_sawakochan
date: May. 12th, 2010 12:59 am (UTC)

I know how it feels to love your best friend.

I've personally been very close to this boy for years, and we know everything each other. He admitted he liked me a couple months ago but I didn't know how I felt...I had a bf anyway, so I didn't try to think about it. We've gotten closer then I thought people could since then, and finally I figured out that I am in love with my best friend...I donno what to do at the moment though, since I am in a 9 month long relationship still...we shall see!

but I guess since this is a fairly old topic you figured out or tried it...how did it go? :)

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it sucks

from: cheer17
date: Jul. 8th, 2010 10:16 pm (UTC)

I know exactly how you feel, I met this guy 10 months ago and at first we liked eachother but i got scared and told him i just wanted to be friends. So we did. We became the bestest friends. We tell each other everything. This summer we hung out almost everyday. But i get the most mixed up signals from him. He tell mes he loves me. And i always say i love you too but i'm afraid that the love i feel is something than what he feels. He always calls me beautiful and i can't help to smile when he walks thru the door. Then again he tells me all his girl problems and says i'm his best friend. Then turns around and puts his hand on my face and holds me. I feel completely confortable around. I can wear no make and be in basketrball shorts and still feel beautiful. But he just sees me as his best friend. He says he can tell me anything. He says all he wants is a girl to hold on to and be in a good happy relationship. I know if he gave me the chance we could be amazing. Both of our mothers tell me that we will end up getting married we just don't know it yet. 5 of us went on a vacation and one night we were sleeping in the same bed, we both woke up at the same time and i got water when i came back he put his arm out and i layed on his chest it was the most perfect moment possible. I rolled off of him to see what he would do and he rolled on to me and wrapped me in his arms. It felt so good i couldn't breathe i felt like i was suffocating by the joy i felt. I'm so afraid to tell him how i really feel because i don't want it to ruin anything we have. The other night we were all at a party and i became really drunk. He helped me up stairs picked me up put me in the bed told me he loved me kissed me on the forhead and left the room. I couldn't help it all my emotions came pouring out of me and i told alot of people how i truely felt about him. Its been 3 days now and he hasn't tried to talk to me yet. I just wish he could see how much i care for him. How much i would do anything just to see him smile. Even if he isn't happy with me but with another girl i would be happy. I love more than words can describe but it just seems like he see's right thru me... i don't know what advice to give you because i don't know what to do either i just know how you feel and it sucks. The song that reminds me of the way i feel about him is The Nicest Thing by Kate Nash

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Please Tell Him!

from: mrsschum88
date: Jul. 16th, 2010 10:52 pm (UTC)

You must tell this man. I knew my best friend, Ryan for 7 years. Him and I went to high school together (where we met). I have been in love with him for 6 years. I kept it to myself because just like you, I didnt want to ruin our friendship it was so special to me... About 3 years ago he was leaving for college in Arizona, and I told him that night I had feelings for him and he told me it was too late... When he came back I knew for sure I was over him the whole year he was gone, but when he came back I knew I was still very much in love with him. I eventually told him and when I did, he asked me to kiss him. After that, we started dating and we have been together for almost 2 years now, We are talking about marriage and children...

Bottom line, you cant be afraid to tell him in fear of losing him. Because if you dont ever tell him it obviously will never work because he will never know. You must tell him... I was dumb and waited 4 years but now we are deeply in love. You dont want to blow your chance for happiness just because you're nervous.

I hope everything works out for you.

Sincerely, Kimberly

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from: redpink17
date: Jul. 30th, 2010 05:49 pm (UTC)

yes..im inlove with him for almost 7 years...he was my college classmate then we become best friends..
i really love him. he knows it..i told him. at first, i was really shy but suddenly i want to take the risk if we have a chance together..
thinking how many times i've told him (maybe 4 times????)..he had only ONE answer "i don't love you, i can't love you, i'm sorry because i always hurt you", after he says this, i always ask him, i'll just let him go (as my friend) and we remove all our communication...
the confusing answer he always tells me.."I DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOU. YOU ARE SO IMPORTANT TO ME. YOU ARE VERY SPECIAL TO ME." his answers made me not to let go of him..
we don't see each other because we are really far from each other.
he had his gf's and i had my bf's.our bf's and gf's are always jealous with us..on what closeness we have..
now, we are both single and im trying and pushing myself away not love him because i dont want to get hurt though in the past it really hurts me a lot...but still some part of me still hoping for him. :(

can someone help me about our situation???
what should i do?

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from: redpink17
date: Jul. 30th, 2010 05:59 pm (UTC)

here's the quote:

“It´s painful to fall in love w/ someone who has someone else especially if you tried everything to ignore the feelings.. the feelings.. worst is, if that someone made you feel as if you´re someone special.. but then u are inlove.”

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