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Jun. 3rd, 2008 | 09:49 pm
posted by: be_bedeski in quotes

 Well guys, I did it. I fell in love with my best friend, the most stupid thing a girl could ever do. And now i'm shuttered and scared ans broken heart and the worst part is, I can't turn on him for advice. To be brief, I met him last year and we sort of had a thing, but there were other people in the way, so we became just friends. And it was fine, I told him my stories, he told me his...But it got into a point I can't deny it, and I think it's stupid, but may be he feels the same confused way about me too...We talk everyday, seriously, and we exchange cute text messages in the middle of the night and he told me he was jealous of a guy...Last weekend, he went over to my friend's house to watch soap opera with me! But it can only mean we're friends...I'm confused. I probably should open up with him, but I don't want to risk what we have, sometimes it feels like he's the only one who gets me, and I want to be with him all the time. Any advice? Any quotes? I would really appreciate it, I'm sort of desperate. Thanks everyone!

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angie7001

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from: angie7001
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 01:50 am (UTC)
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i had a situation like this once and i ended up turning to my dad for advice (lol, sign of desperation) and he said "the greatest risk in life is taking no risks" or something like that. i would just say wait for the right moment, cuz you don't want to regret not telling him, no matter how things turn out. hope things go well and that i was some help, haha...

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Rose

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from: lifeinroseland
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 02:02 am (UTC)
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Kiss him.

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from: manatee_lovely
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 02:22 am (UTC)
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ask him how he views your relationship.

i fell for my best friend last year, & i told him, & he reacted really badly. now we go to the same college & to be honest, i'm glad he's not my best friend anymore, & really glad he's not my boyfriend. sorry if that didn't help, but the point i'm trying to make is that things always work out in the end.

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from: chiseledbreath
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 02:37 am (UTC)
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good god, story of my life. i fell in love with my best friend and it took me two years to say anything to him. he had a girlfriend at the time who he had been dating for like a year already, but i told him that i just needed to get it off my chest but that i didn't want to ruin the friendship, etc. he ignored me for the whole summer and i got over him, then he apologized, and now we're friends again.

the only quote i could think of which i saw fitting to me personally was...
"because that's the way it is for me, and always has:
to be amused, bewildered, bemused, and fucked
without the slightest aspect left out."

but that might be a little depressing.

chin up girlfriend. i think the best thing to do is let it happen. even though it hurt like hell when i got denied, i'm glad i told him, and it made me a lot tougher than i probably would be.

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from: paradigmclarity
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 04:11 am (UTC)
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Best guy friends rarely make good boyfriends, in my experience. There's almost too much closeness there for it to turn romantic. If you're having those feelings for him, I'd say step back and make sure that they're not just "oh my gosh, I've never been this close to anyone before, I think it must be love" feelings, because those can be easily confuseable.

I don't have any quotes, but that's the best advice I can give. Don't rush and try to make sure 100% before jumping into anything because if it turns out that that's not what it was and you tell him? You could lose him as a friend, as well.

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Zoe

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from: mzmtiger
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 04:17 am (UTC)
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I'm currently in the same situation, except that the signals I'm getting are even more mixed then yours. But this is about you. So here's some of my favorite quotes:

"Don't think about what might go wrong, think about what could go right!"-unknown

"Missing someone is sitting right beside them and knowing you can't have them." - unknown

"Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have."-Unknown

"You and her, that's what you want. You and me, that's what I dream." - Unknown

"For the first time in a long time, my life is real. It doesn't matter who ends up with who. And in some unearthly way its always gonna be you and me...soulmates. What we have goes beyond friendship...beyond lovers...its forever." -Dawson's Creek

"Because once upon a time, we were best friends. And, yes, there's been a lot of bad stuff in between. But none of that matters right now, okay? You need me, I'm there. Any time, any place, anywhere." -Dawson's Creek

"Look, I know this sucks for you because of him and I want to be there for you, I do, but I can't do this anymore. I can't keep being your second choice-- not when you're my first." –Everwood

"You hug him goodbye like it's nothing, while all you want to do is hold on forever, but you let go, smile and walk away. Then cry all the way home because you know it will never be the same because try as

"So I keep thinking that when your finally ready to be more than best friends, I won't be here, but then I laugh at myself for even thinking that I won't still be here waiting."

"I love you. And not, not in a friendly way, although I think we’re great friends." -Chasing Amy

"I love you. I love you not because you're adorable or because you're sweet, or because you're my best friend. I love you because you make me step outside myself & look at who I really am. You make me want to be a better person, just because you are who you are. I can tell you absolutely everything, & I know you will listen. And you're one of my best friends, but I'll keep all of this to myself because I love you & because you don't feel the same way. I wish that I could make you love me, but I can't. That's why these words will be forever lost in my memories & never to be spoken aloud. I love you."

"I look around me at all the girls who are always talking about how hot this guy or that guy is, and then I look at you. No one's whispering or giggling about you. You're not the hottest guy in school, but I fell in love with you anyway. I fell in love with you because of your laugh, and your smile, and your voice, and the way you walk and sit and stand, and the way I feel when I'm around you, and because you're my best friend. The fact that your pretty good looking helps, but I fell in love with the person you are. I can't tell you this, cause it might ruin our friendship, but you'll always be the hottest guy in the world to me."

Hope these help! And good luck!

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Zoe

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from: mzmtiger
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 04:19 am (UTC)
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This was too big to fit in my last post, but it is my personal favorite:

And my personal favorite:

"I'm in love with him. Totally and completely in love with my best friend. We can talk forever and more after that, and I guess one time while we were talking, I went and fell in love with him. Or maybe is was a time when I wasn't with him, when I was with my other friends, and I realized that he was different, really different. Special, you could say. Or it could have been when I was alone, and I realized that I was thinking about him, and not even realizing it. I don't know when it happened, just that it did, and now it won't go away. He's more then my best friend. He's like my bestester friend. That's how great of a friend he is, that I have to make up a word to describe him. My throat tightens, my heart beats faster, my stomach goes crazy, and I wonder if he even kind of feels the same about me every time I see him. And I really want him to feel the same way. But for right now, he can just be my best friend. That's all I want. For him to stay with me forever, in whatever way he sees fit. Stay with me so we can talk forever and then some, laugh until our hearts can't take it anymore, and be there when I need to cry on his shoulder, even if he doesn't know why. There's a lot of ways to love somebody, and my other friends all say that maybe it's love towards a brother, or the best of friends I'm feeling, but I know it's the real deal. I know, cause every time he smiles, I'm reminded why I haven't just given up on him. Cause I'm totally and completely in love with my best friend. And that's okay for now, as long as we can at least be best friends forever."

Also, the songs "A Day Late" by Anberlin, and "The Nicest Thing" by Kate Nash are good songs about this stuff.

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Serendipity

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from: starrfish016
date: Jun. 4th, 2008 06:43 pm (UTC)
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been there, done that... twice. First time ended in heartbreak, second time (after I full out denied I would ever do that again...) ended up in a 2.5 year relationship that is still going strong. :) Its up to you, really. If you think risking a great friendship would be worth it for something more, something better, then by all means, go for it--I sure did, and I'm really glad. It's been the best & longest relationship I have ever had and its great... Think about it, talk it over with your man, and give it a shot (I say). And if things don't work out, make a pack so that you'll always be friends... but at least it will help you sleep better at night instead of staying up wondering "could he be the one?"...

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not the stupidest thing

from: live_life_well
date: Jul. 13th, 2008 04:55 pm (UTC)
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This is not the stupidest thing you could possibly do. Like many of the responses here, I am hopelessly in love with my ebst friend. However, I don't see this as a hopless cause at all.
You see, I met him a few years back and knew i would be with him later in my life. We stayed as simple friends, but something changed within the past 2 years. Our status of acquaintances turned into a lifelong friendship that I will never end. He confessed his true feelings to me about a year ago and I was scared. I didn't know how to react, so I pushed him away. Dumb, right? Here he was, admitting he loved me and i loved him in return, but i did nothing to help get this started.

well, it gets better i assure you. We remained ok friends, and roughly 4 months later we were back to being inseparable best friends again.Over the span of that year we became closer than we had ever been before. Then, something happened where we both knew we needed to be together. Let's just call this as a freak incident that was meant to open our eyes. And it did. We have had our rocky moments because we wonder how it could work out since we were such good friends before our relationship began.

honestly, i could never be happier. He is amazing in every possible way and i would never leave him for the world and i know he would feel the same way.

there's this song by jason mraz featuring colbie caillat. its called "lucky".
i suggest you look it up if u havent already.
one of the lyrics are "i;m lucky i'm in love with my best friend"
i am definitely lucky.

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it's sad because

from: mthrfckntasha
date: Jan. 17th, 2009 05:58 am (UTC)
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i have also fallen for my best friend, but i cant say anything to him about it for two reasons: it would ruin everything between us, and HE'S GAY.
im not usually afraid to take risks, but theres nothing to do to help me in this situation.
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Sydney Brown

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from: Sydney Brown
date: Jul. 10th, 2011 05:02 am (UTC)
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dude. that isEXACTLY what it's like with me and my best friend that i've fallen for. like. it's like looking at a something i might have wrote.. only i didn't..

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from: samiisamx3
date: Apr. 25th, 2009 04:07 am (UTC)
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I feel that...I'm in the situation right now. And I actually told him and it didn't ruin our friendship. He asked if it was going to be weird between us now and I said I hope not and everything went back to normal. He went back to being my best friend, and going out with one of my other friends, and I'm left here heartbroken...it's not fun.
The reason for my name is actually what he calls me, since my name is Sam, he calls me Samii Sam.
xx Sam

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it hurtssss.....

from: brokenrou
date: Jun. 5th, 2009 02:24 am (UTC)
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Unfortunately, I'm in the exact situation right now but even worse because he's had a girlfriend for the past 3 yrs (who is supposedly my friend) and is madly inlove with her. Even though he loves her, he's told me he's always been physically attracted to me. When he told me this last year and I admitted that I felt the same towards him, it's changed our innocent friendship into much more - hooking up, messing around, fooling around, however you want to put it. It's become so addicting but unfortunately we both feel completely different. I've never experienced love or understood how it could possibly feel until I met him. I'm madly inlove with him. He's the only man I trust the most and confide in with just about anything. I didn't realize I love him in more than a best friend kind of way until this year. Now I can't even turn my mindset back to the way it used to be.

Today after a 4 yr friendship, I subtly asked him if possibly why he's been allowing himself to mess around with me is due to potential feelings he has for me beyond physical attraction. His response was that it's strictly physical and also because he trusts me completely that he knows this secret will never get out (clearly I just broke that promise to a bunch of strangers). He also told me that the song "Appetite" by Usher is what he feels on a daily basis. After listening to the song and facing the reality that he truly loves his girlfriend and that nothing I can say or do will make him fall inlove with me, my heart was torn to pieces and I haven't been able to stop crying since. I have never been in so much emotional pain as I am now. He also responded with a text and a phonecall asking me if there was any particular reason I asked if it was more than a physical attraction, and unfortunately for the first time in our 4 yr friendship, I lied to the man I love responding that I was just checking out of curiosity and immediately got off the phone with him. I couldn't have the heart to be honest and risk losing the closeness we have even though I trust he wouldn't end the friendship.

The fact of the matter is that I need to let go of this deeper romantic love I have for him and try my hardest to accept the wonderful friendship we have minus the messing around. Letting go is one of the hardest moves I've ever had to do in the past and is even harder this time around but it needs to be done and will be done because the world keeps spinning and life keeps moving. The issue isn't whether or not I'll move on from this painful feeling; it's a matter of how long it will take. This all depends on one's state of mind. I could let this affect me for a week, month, or even year. Obviously the week is preferable over the year. In order to shorten to healing time, one needs to firstly accept it. Secondly, one needs to understand that they will move on and that the world hasn't ended and that there are always going to be more compatible people out there whether they like to believe it or not. Everything after that will run its course smoothly. I'm trusting and believing I will do the same.

Basically, the whole point of this was a) to secretly or blatantly vent about my very recent heartbreak b) to show you that you are not alone with these emotions and share this pain with you c) to hopefully help you with whatever humble advice I could give and d) secretly hoping I could also get advice in return from anyone else because even though it's easier to advise, it's hard to deal without the help of other advising even the advisor.

I really do wish you the best of luck on your journey to letting go and I hope that I may do the same in a short period of time.

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it hurtssss..... (cont'd)

from: brokenrou
date: Jun. 5th, 2009 02:24 am (UTC)
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I will end this with some quotes I feel that could be helpful in letting go:

"Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is. The only problem in your life is your mind's resistance to life as it unfolds."
— Dan Millman

"If you're feeling frightened about what comes next, don't be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path towards happiness, don't waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes; because you'll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart - where your hope lives. You'll find your way again."
— Gilmore girls

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe less so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together."
— Marilyn Monroe

"God doesn't give you people you want, He gives you people you need - To help, hurt, leave, or love you so you can become the person you were meant to be."

"Letting go doesn't mean we don't care. It doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible - controlling that which we cannot - and instead, focus on what is possible - which usually means taking care of ourselves. And that we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible."
— Melody Beattie



Good luck to us both.

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from: hales_1992
date: Jul. 25th, 2009 11:41 pm (UTC)
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Okayy, so i know exaclty how you feel. i fell in love with my best friend, and he won't let me forget it. the the worst time to tell him is when you are drunk, i did. only thing is he was to drunk to realise that he said it "i love you" first, but he 'sang' it in a funny voice and i turned around and said "i love you too" all he done then was laugh his head off and tell the 15 other people that was with us. and now he is convinced i fancy him. which techniqually is wrong, i don't JUST fancy him, i'm completly and utterly in love with him. i have been best friends with him since i was 3 years old. and within the past 2 years or so, i grew more feelings. and within the last 6 months he has done nothing but flirt with me, and i tell myself everytime, 'don't do this to yourself, do not flirt back, get over him' but all he has to do is smile, and i have fallen again. altogether 3 main people know my feelings, but everyone, i mean EVERYONE says we are the cutest couple even though were not, and that 'i can see you two getting married one day' and even though we both denie it, that is all i really want. everyone can tell there is alot of tension between us two, they all know that both of us like each other, but just recently he has given me very strong signals as well. only problem is, i don't want to chase them and fall flat on my face. i get so depressed sometimes, and it is nice to actually write this without him knowing. i feel like a big weight off my shoulders. it's eben like i can go to my mum about this either, because his mum and my mum are good friends and do talk alot, they are both always teasing us and saying "oh you two will come to your senses one day". sometimes it gets very awkward. i have tryed talking to him, but because of the last time wen we was drunk, i'm scared he is going to laugh in my face again. i know anyone could say he isn't worth it, but it has got well to deep for me now, i can't give him up, it hurts to think that he may get with anyother girl soon, or get married in a few years to someone else, i mean we are both 16 now. sometimes i think it is so easy to just end it all right now and i would never have to worry about him again, but then i think i would never see his face again. i take quizes on facebook and websites like that, ones like "who will be your solemate" and near enough everytime it comes up, your the best friends type, you will be better off with a friend, and i get my hopes up wen i read my horoscopes and it says something like " a friend will realise you mean more the them today" and stuff. if he ever did get in a seriouse relatioonship with someone else then i may just have to leave everyone in my life to get over him. i am willing to give up everything for him, my whole acting career, everything, even other guys, it was my prom a few weeks ago and another guy asked me to dance and have a photo done with him, i said no. and do you know what my best friends mum said. "you said no becuase you wanted to dance with him, and he still brings it up because he is jealouse and wanted to dance with you". i swear the flirting and that isn't just in my head neither, even my friends realise's it, and me and him see each other EVERYDAY, and if i am late then his mum tells me how he is up at the window every 3 seconds seeing if i am coming yet, and if i don't see him till night then his mum says he has been in a bad mood all day because he hasn't seen me. i mean, that isn't someone who just sees me as a friend, surely. i just can't wait for the day he says, "do you know what, lets give this ago" because i would just be the happyest person EVER, i mean he only has to phone, and i see his name pop up on-line i have the biggest grin on my face ever. i know i'm not just imagining this, this HAS to be real. i just really wish someone would shine the light...

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from: hales_1992
date: Aug. 24th, 2009 09:16 am (UTC)
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found some quotes to add...

'meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was choice, but falling in love with you...i had no control over'

'It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone - but takes a lifetime to forget someone.'

'Somewhere between our laughs, our long talks, our silly little fights, and all our jokes, I fell in love.'

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from: stephienicole1
date: Aug. 15th, 2009 02:49 am (UTC)
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honestly, many people go through this. take me for example. ive known my bestfriend for 16 years.. thats basically my whole life & he was also my first kiss, when we grew older, we grew more apart, but now we are just as close as we were... only he's going out with my best girl friend and im going out with his best guy friend. it sucks because i just realized now that im in love with him. ive been trying to tell him for the past month now, because ive been holding it in for so long, but its not like i can do that because id cause a whole mess with everyone. he would do the same thing to me as your bestfriend does to you... only he would tell me how we are going to get married when we are older and whatever.

but, i personally think you should listen to yourself and what your gut is telling you. i mean i dont know your relationship with him but, i would tell him, because what it sounds like is that he does have feelings for you. its really not a bad thing to be in love with your bestfriend.

oh & bestfriends dont make bad boyfriends in every case. depends on how close you are and if it's akward and stuff. i think the closer you are, the better everything turns out.

Heres some quotes:
You know what it is that you want, you're just afraid to admit it cause you're afraid of failing. Screw that. Screw your fear. You know what you want, which is hell of a lot more than most other people, so dont be scared or afraid to fall. Just go out and get it.

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing, and wishing you had?

hope i helped :/

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from: egtaylor
date: Aug. 24th, 2009 04:09 am (UTC)
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so i'm really curious what you actually did?
did you tell him or let things be?
when i think about the pros and cons i think of how i don't want to say anything to him about it because i would never ever want to put our friendship at risk because he is my best friend! i tell him everything! i'm closer with him than any girls. but at the same time i want to tell him because i can't even begin to picture myself with another guy? i want him to be there to talk to as a best friend, but i don't want him to be with another girl! that would kill me
uugghh haha i hate situations
ps, i love some of those quotes that mzm tiger posted haha

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